Below are the main themes from the research we did, some of which we have discussed in more detail in the navigating decision making section. This decision making process summary suggests some questions to ask yourself in relation to the research themes that were identified in the research.
SUPPORT
Have I been offered and got the support needed?
Have I got access to peer support?
EXPECTATIONS
Whose expectations am I meeting – mine, society’s, my family’s and friends’, or what I think is the child’s/tamaiti’s?
FUTURE WORRIES
Will my child/tamaiti be happy with my decisions in the future?
RECOGNITION OF PAST
Have I considered what those with lived experience have said?
WHAT’S RIGHT?
Is this decision making for me or for my child/tamaiti?
BIAS
Have I checked my privilege and bias?
NORMS
Have I considered what norms I am accepting or rejecting?
Is diversity and acceptance of difference a part of my thinking?
COMMUNICATION
Have I been provided full information?
Have I been given options?
Have I been offered supportive and sensitive language?
IDENTITIY
Have I considered identity develops over time and is deeply personal?
BODILY AUTONOMY
Does my child/tamaiti have the right to decide what happens to their body?
TAKE TIME